“You will note that there are no C’s at all in the group. This is why Vinnie, who is paid millions of dollars per movie, is always broke. No one in the family can make a buck last from now until the end of the episode.”
In the book, I cite this DISC analysis of the cast of the TV show Entourage I wrote five years ago. Someday this will be ‘news’ – when they release the Entourage movie. Until then, it’s an example of the kind of fun DISC play you should be doing all the time.
For now, I just want to talk about thinking in a DISC-like way, using on-the-fly DISC analysis to evaluate and respond to the people you come into contact with.
Here are the four DISC categories:
Dominance
Influence
Steadiness
ComplianceThat’s less than useful. Here’s a better way of understand what DISC is measuring:
D’s are drivers. They’re all about getting things Done. A high-D (c’est moi) can be a prick to work for (yeah), but every successful boss will have a lot of D in his personality.
I’s are all about Image, about the way other people perceive them, their accomplishments and their stuff. Many successful salespeople are strong on I traits.
S’s are strongly associated with family life and social communities generally. If your office has a Secret Santa gift exchange, it’s being run by an S.
C’s are associated with calculation, computation and a comprehensive attention to detail. If the till comes up three cents short, a D will toss in some coins to get on with business, but a C will keep counting and counting until the cause of the discrepancy is uncovered.
Here are two more axes for understanding DISC profiling:
D’s and I’s are about telling, where S’s and C’s are about asking.
And D’s and C’s are about process, where I’s and S’s are about people.
It would be terribly convenient (at least for me) if people fell neatly into one DISC quadrant or another, but of course they don’t. Some people are chameleons, with just about the same amounts of each characteristic. More commonly, people will tend to have one strong trait and another that is fairly strong, with the other two coming in less strong.
So, for example, in my own idealized self-image, I am all D and nothing else. But in the reality of day-to-day life, I am a high D with relatively high I-like tendencies — which you could guess just by reading this post. I want to hone this procedure, but I also want to talk about what we are doing.
I don’t know how other people deal with DISC. Cathleen and I have evolved a notation that looks like this: Di — high-D, strong-I, not much else. Cathleen turns out to be a Sd — the soccer-mom profile, expressing devotion to family and friends with highly-efficient procedures.
(Incidentally, if Cathleen were not such a high-S, I would very probably be a D for Divorced.)
Okay, so what about Entourage? I’ve mentioned that we like to watch the show, and we tend by now to DISC everyone we see, real or fictional. So here is a short run-down on the cast of the show:The Grand Unifying Theory of Human Motivation – as taught to me by a turtle, and by an eternally-outraged human reptile.To read more about empathy, see me, feel me, touch me, heal me at Amazon.com.
Super-agent Ari Gold is a high-D, obviously, an off-the-charts D. And Ari also has a lot of I; he could not survive at his level without a lot of overt male-display behavior. But the fun of Ari’s character comes from a small but treasured reserve of S, which he hoards for Missus Ari and his children.
Movie star Vincent Chase is an Si. We would expect more I-like vanity from an actor, but Vinnie’s first motivation, almost always, is to the “family” that is his entourage.
As an interesting contrast, Vinnie’s brother Johnny “Drama” Chase is an Is. Everything Drama says or does is imbued with an I-ronic subtext: He is always striving to portray himself in a better light than his actual behavior warrants. This is a comic dodge older than Plautus, and Drama is pitch-perfect in his posturing. Even so, he is redeemed by his S attributes, which come out in emergencies.
Salvatore “Turtle” Assante is almost entirely S, especially where Vinnie and the family are concerned. He has a little bit of I, in the sense that he doesn’t like to be cheated out of credit for the things he does well — such as his sartorial sensibilities. But in the end, Turtle wants nothing more than to smoke pot and roll with the boys.
Eric “E” Murphy is the driving character of the dramedy: He’s an Si who is trying very hard to become a Ds. His D-like initiatives frequently collide with Ari’s divergent goals, which creates interesting conflicts. He is intensely loyal to Vince and to the family, but he expresses that loyalty in ways that don’t seem very S-like to the others.
You will note that there are no C’s at all in the group. This is why Vinnie, who is paid millions of dollars per movie, is always broke. No one in the family can make a buck last from now until the end of the episode.
But: Really: What’s the point of an exercise like this?Find the love for life your dog never lives a day without at Amazon.com:Shyly’s delight: Work, play and love like a Labrador.
If you learn to think in a DISC-like way, you can learn to identify what motivates the people you’re working with. Big, beautiful house set back from a busy street? The I’s will love it and the S’s will recoil in horror. Got a smokin’ deal on a rental property? The D’s might take your word for it, and the I’s will dig it for the bragging rights, but the C’s will expect you to prove your claims down to the penny.
This is not “working” people. This is working with people, helping them to find exactly what they’re looking for by learning to look at the world through their eyes.
