Me, me, me at #T21C.
The moral philosophy explored here will fix all of this – in time. But right now, when everyone wants to do something to #StopGunViolence, here’s something you can do:
Entreat Anthony Johnson to release the remaining two videos he has of me speaking.
That sounds both vain and self-serving, but it’s neither. I don’t know if my vanity comes in at none or total, but, either way, it has nothing to do with you. But I know what you don’t, so the loss here is yours, not mine.
Why am I so arrogant as to insist that it’s a loss? Because I’m talking in both videos about ideas that will serve to cultivate appropriate authority – leadership. All young American men, not just the ones dying to be on the TV news, are missing out on the mastery of leadership skills they could have and should have learned from their fathers – had they been lucky enough to have full-time, vigilant, self-responsible fathers.
Our young men are over-medicated, involuntarily-celibate and universally-rejected because they are under-fathered – and, correspondingly, over-mothered. We can’t give them back their dads, but we can help them learn the lessons their fathers should have taught them.
Oh, yes, they’re not all like that. Or, at least, they’re not all all-the-way like that. But play the song “Creep” in a room full of boys and watch the nodding heads. Radiohead produced an anthem for the victims of divorce culture.
And guys a lot like that are the young men I got to talk to, thanks to Anthony Johnson of The 21 Convention. I spoke at his events in Austin in 2012 and in Tampa in 2014, and I did an interview with Anthony and Socrates from ManningUpSmart.com in Orlando in 2013. Just after Tampa, Anthony decided to break with me – it happens – and it is the latter two videos that are still unreleased.
How can campaigning to get them released help to #StopGunViolence? By showing young men how much they have to be proud of in their lives:
And by showing them how to exercise leadership skills, so that they will achieve even more of their values and have that much more to be proud of in their lives over time. Most young men are not so despairing as to shoot up a school. But most young men are in despair, and that much is correctable.
The second unreleased video, my talk in Tampa, specifically addresses the problems many young men have navigating the social environment. Step-by-step, chart-by-chart, I present them with the score-card to human social interaction. I invented The Dutch Uncle Game – a leadership praxis for helping Cautious personalities, in particular, to become more Sociably Driven over time – as a consequence of that talk.
That is to say: There is good stuff here. It may not stop a spree killer, but it will help good, smart, hard-working young men figure out what they’ve gotten wrong so far, and how to do better going forward.
Will you have changed the world for the good forever by helping to get these videos released? Oh, yes! Slowly and incrementally – the only way the world can be changed. And even if you yourself are not despairing, I can still show you how to be delighted all the time – how to get more of what you want now, and how to get better over time at achieving more and more of your values.
The videos are not my property, and I have no claim on them. I did my part in making my presentations, and more fool me for not being more exacting about terms. But this is very good content, and it could do a whole lot of good in the world – your world – right now. I’d be grateful if you would give Anthony a nudge.
